The Pick Pocket
Its winter, 1959, in Bettendorf, Iowa
and after school a small herd of Washington Elementary first graders was
roaming the streets toward home on a cold, gray afternoon. I was in that herd, strolling through a
couple of alleys, and jumping a fence, we shouldn't have, to get to the street
most of us lived on. All would have gone
well for me that afternoon if I had just minded my own business and kept on
walking. If only.
We were still
several blocks from home when I spotted two girls walking a couple of houses
ahead. What made me take notice of them
was one of the girls had a pair of gray, warm looking gloves hanging out of her
coat's right pocket and I decided it would be cool if I could sneak up behind
her and heist the gloves without her knowing.
Then, after whispering the scheme to my buddies, which they
wholeheartedly endorsed, I quietly accelerated up behind my target, eyes glued
on the mitts. Heisting them was easier
than I thought it would be. The girls
had no idea I was behind them, so far, so good.
After trailing behind a few steps I thought this was too easy, reached
for the gloves and slid them out so smooth it would have made a professional
pick-pocket proud, if not his mother.
With glee, I turned back to my cronies and silently waved the prize at
them in triumph. They raised their fists
back in triumph and, was I proud, as the girls rounded the corner and
disappeared unaware of my shenanigans.
Now I was in a
dilemma, however. I expected to her to
catch me in the act and then laugh it off, no harm done. Yet there I stood, successful in thievery and
not wanting to admit the deed. What do I
do now, I thought to myself. I couldn't
run to her and give them back with everyone watching. That is not cool and if I do she might tell her
mom and she would call my mom and that wouldn't be good. Therefore, I did what all self respecting
thieves do with the evidence; I dumped it.
As I continued home I passed a trash can sitting on the curb, and
without breaking stride, deftly pulled the lid up, and threw the gray knit
inside. Smart, quick thinking I thought,
and continued home sure my crime would avoid detection.
Oh, I was so
wrong and you know what, I have been a parent myself for some 33 years now and
still do not know exactly how, in just the time it took me to finish walking
home, my mother found out about the criminal activity. It had to be less than five minutes later
when I got home. I guess a fellow herdsman
immediately rated me out, but to this day, dear mom has never told me how she
found out so quickly. I still bring it
up from time to time, but all she does is smile.
However, she
was not smiling that day I pranced in the kitchen expecting a warm hello: not
even close. Mom comes from a long line
of Morgans you see, and many of their clansmen have what we call the Morgan
look. We have all seen it from someone, the
look that requires no words. The look
you hope comes with no words, and which produces immediate silence and
calm. Lips tight, eyes squinted with a
gaze that burns right through you, vein popping out in the forehead. When you walk into it, you feel like you have
been hit by a Mack truck and the best you can hope for is just minimal
damage.
Well, as I
came through the back kitchen door the “look” stopped me dead, and I knew
someone's lifestyle was about to be modified and not my older sister who was
standing in the doorway to the living room.
Knowing I needed to keep the modifications to a minimum, I confessed to
the crime as quickly as possible. Mom
passed sentence immediately and within moments, she had the family's budding
criminal headed back out the rear door, briskly skimming over the stepping-stones
leading to the detached garage by the alley and climbing into the cream-colored
1950 Dodge waiting inside.
Within minutes,
we are parking in front of the victim's house.
Mom stops the car, hands me a dollar bill, tells me it was my allowance
for four weeks, and orders me to the front door to apologize for my thievery
and make restitution. She also gives an instruction,
which, at the time, I did not understand at all and liked even less than having
to confess. Just before I closed the
door she says sternly, “David, when you talk to them I want you to look them in
the eye and tell the whole truth about what you did.”
That was the
longest short walk I had ever taken. As
I climbed the porch steps and approached the door, I was still puzzled over why
I had to look them in the eye. What
difference did it make? It made no sense
at all. One thing I was sure of though,
Mom had eyes everywhere and she would know if I failed to look them in the
eye.
I stretch my
fist toward the door, not sure which I am more afraid of, confessing or
looking. I knock on the door. My knees knock louder than my fist. I am desperate for no one to answer. I hear footsteps inside. I watch the doorknob twist clockwise. I am almost
sick. The victim answers the door. My mortification is complete.
Now what do I
do? She quickly solved the dilemma.
“Mom, can you
come here? David's here,” she called
out.
After what
seemed an eternity of being stared at by this girl, her mother finally pulled
the door open wide and asked, “Can I help you?”
With eyes
down, all I could get out was, “I'm sorry.”
Then remembering to look up I said, “I took her gloves and threw them in
a trash can, this is my allowance,” and held the George Washington out towards
her. She accepted the bill and the
apology with a smile and thanked me for being honest. Then she looked up to acknowledge mom at
curbside, which I took as my cue to wheel around and run back to the car
relieved the ordeal was over.
I spent years
wondering why mom ordered me to look that woman in the eyes. What did it have to do with apologizing? I'm not sure even she knew back then. It may have just been a feeling she had, but
the answer came several years later in the form of an Easter sermon. The preacher was vividly describing Jesus'
last night before his betrayal. He
explained how Jesus prayed so fervently that he sweat drops of blood, and that he
anguished over the dread responsibility of the torture and crucifixion awaiting
him. Then the old preacher said of
Jesus, “He looked death right in the eye that night in Gethsemane and accepted
the responsibility God had for him to fulfill. Had he not had the courage to 'look it in the
eye' he would have shrunk from the task and there would never have been
salvation for the world.”
There it
is. What my mother knew, if only
intuitively back in 1958, is what God displayed for us so graphically that long
ago night; life is about responsibility.
Christ was not a victim as some scholars want to describe him
today. He spent thirty-three years
intentionally plodding toward his vocation and when the time arrived, he
accepted what was his to shoulder. We
would say Christ was treated unfairly by the system, and he was! He could have appealed his sentence. I would have.
Ask for mercy. I would have. Play to the emotions of the crowd. I would have.
He didn't do any of that. He
never defended himself, nor did he complain to the Sanhedrin, to Pilate, Herod,
or the mob screaming, “Crucify him.” As
the old preacher might have said, “Jesus made his decision then lived and died
with it.”
Wise mothers
(and fathers) the world over know that life is not fair and never will be. They teach their children to make the best
quality decisions they can and then deal with the outcomes, good or bad, rather
than blame poor decisions and worse outcomes on “the system.”
I chose to steal
a little girl's gloves and my mother would not let me make excuses or look for
a way out. Instead, she instilled in me
a little of the courage I needed to face the responsibility of the shame that
came with my decision.
In a way,
responsibility is about living courageously and having the courage to live
responsibly is as easy as linking two simple scriptures together and letting
their combined truths guide all that we do.
All things work for good to those
who love the Lord . . . Romans 8:28 (NIV
I can do all things through him who gives me
strength, Philippians 3:14 (NIV)
We have to
decide, either these scriptures are true or they are not. But know this, coupled together these two
verses are the key to facing life, including the bad decisions we make, head
on, no excuses, no complaints, no victims.
The decision is ours, and so are the consequences.
Such is the
nature of responsibility.